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The One.

"Remember, you are not the only compatible woman in his life. Not until you change and compromise along the way can you become his most compatible. You were chosen and married to him only because you met him earlier. Only benevolence and magnanimity will allow you to keep your man to your last days." The words of a woman whose husband betrayed her.

I agree with Mrs Lam, who wrote to Today in response to the letter, "Stay away from my husband, you hear!" (Aug 19).


The chosen one.

Don't all lovers deeply in love think that he/she is the one of their life? But what happens when he/she leaves us? Is that the end? Wasn't he/she the one? The only one? Will we never find love? I believe in a lifetime, there are countless people who will cross our path. A few of them will be those who we are more comfortable with, who we feel are special, and make us feel special. And when both hand comes together, they clap. Perhaps that special feeling is known as Love to many. Some become good friends, some become couples. Why don't we let the outcome of love always be something positive?

I think marriage is a phase in the model of lifecycle which we choose (some might choose to live a bachelor/bachelorette life). We go through it with someone we love, so that both of us will gain the fullest from it. Why would you want to spend your days with someone you don't like? I think that is the true meaning of marriage, not just merely the union of love. Of cuz, there are other important significance which I will not be able to comprehend yet, until when I'm ready for that phase.

Ultimately, at the end of our journey, we will know who is really the chosen one in our lifetime. Before that day, those who have found their love, should never take their partners for granted. The rule works for both gender. We are together cuz both of us make each other feel like doing so. I think it takes continuous effort to maintain the special feeling, and appreciation for our partner to keep the relationship alive. It is better to recognize why you love someone and treasure it, than be tied down by responsibilities and obligations. And those who had once or never tasted love, its just a matter of time before someone will cross your path again. When that happen, let yourself fall in love, not because he/she is the one, but because you are ready for it.

On a separate note, I got a few replies on the entry of the Sensitive New Age Guy. From what I gather, they will each need a tailor-made SNAG. =P

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