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What Do I Really Want?

At twenty-six, I got to know more of what I want. When you are put in that position to think what you are willing to give away, you realise what you really want.

I am sure most people know the hard facts of life (I'm talking about the $$$), but not many can really appreciate it. Until you are thrown in that situation, those are just words and numbers. I may not be experiencing the worse life, but I am experiencing enough for me to appreciate it. And when you do, you'd wanna do something about it right?

The grand plan of things is simple, "Plan and work towards the goal". The planning we can leave it to the professionals, our financial consultants, to tell us how much we need to make to achieve what we want. The "working towards the goal" part, depends on ourselves. As we pursue this path to work towards the goal, opportunities come by. Opportunities such as doing a business, having a promotion, etc. But with these opportunities come some trade off. Such as time, health, greater responsibilities, etc.

I think time is a big issue here. Theoretically, if one is willing to commit all your time to work hard, you can achieve your goal. Its how much you want it that matters. In the reality, I feel its not so. What I think I want, is not really what I want. I know that's kinda confusing, so let me elaborate...

Most of us, including me, wants a comfortable life in the future, more time with our family, nice house, maybe nice car, no worries about the finances. The question is what is our definition of comfortable and how much $$$ we need. Since we assume we need alot, especially with facts of life breathing down our neck, we assume we are willing to work very hard.

Now I find out that, no matter how much $$$ I think I want, there is a threshold of amount of time and effort I am willing to put in. There is no right or wrong, as this threshold is determined relative to factors around me, which may differ with others. And this threshold what that really determines what I really want.

I think that no matter how little time I will have in ten years time, nothing can be compared with the time I have with my family and love ones now. We always talk about how much we should treasure those around us, so how much potential $$$ will drive us to treasure them less?

On the surface, one might say I am "lazy and not willing to work hard", or "I don't want the $$$ that badly even tho' I know I need it badly". But it is the fact that I know what I really wants, my time with my family and love ones, that stop me from commiting more time in working hard.

I am already in this rat race, working hard for the $. I have yet to find a way to let $ work for me.

The bottomline is, having what I want makes me happy. Me being happy is important, me being there to make those around me happy is just as important. I want to do that. No amount of $ can ever take that away from me.

Comments

egeus said…
Glad that you understand how I feel. =)

I had always been pressurised to deliver. But I know I can, deliver, not necessary in terms of $$$.

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