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Rejection, Doing It Right.

I found the following entry while I was blog-surfing. Apology to the original author if you find this entry offensive. My comments isn't to criticise your reaction but to offer an opinion from a guy's perspective. Your reaction is totally understandable...

"i cannot zzz cos i m damn irritated now ...

is there anything so urgent tat you need to send me 5 smses within 10 min??? n keep calling every hr?? if i miss a call i will return when i see it .. but if u repeatedly call so many times n i dun even bother to return a single call .. pls be clever enuff to noe tat i probably dun wish to speak to u .. pls STOP calling me and checking my whereabout ... cos who r u to interfere ... i dun even report to my parent .. let alone u being a very normal frenz .. n stop pestering me to go out wif u ... I WILL NEVER EVER AGREE EVEN WHEN I M FREE ..

maybe u din noe tat u r really PISSING ME OFF... dun force me up the wall one day n say those harsh words to u .."

From the looks of it, the story goes that a guy liked this girl, and she did not like him. He seemed to be a nightmare, smothering her with 5 smses within 10 mins and calling every hour. I am sure many girls have experienced this before.

I ain't sure if he was an irritating snob, or sloppy geek, or someone who totally irritated her everyday and turned her off. If it was just the case of no chemistry between them, and she was 'ok' with his looks, she could had given him a chance. How often does "Love at First Sight" happens? In fact, to build serious relationship and to understand one's character well, it requires time and effort.

If she was not 'ok' with his looks or absolutely hated him, she could have at least spared some thoughts him, to let him down gently. There is really no fault in liking someone and caring for someone. He was probably worried about her when she did not reply or pick up his calls. SMSes are meant to be short. So maybe he had sent a few short messages on impulse, and had more to say to her.

Besides, I think that friends can hang out too, alone or in group. In fact, going out with someone for dinner, movie, shopping, doesn't mean she is supposed to be interested in him. Hey, this is the 21st century dudette!

I think the more hostile she is towards him, the harder he will try. Someone will get hurt. 被爱是幸福的,单恋是痛苦的。 Rejections, like breakups, are never easy. It will be good if she can appreciate his feelings and give him a proper closure every tho' they had never started. Afterall, his infatuation must had started long time ago. Be his friend, let him move on. It is always better to have one more good friend, than another enemy.

Girls are difficult to understand, and girls don't really understand guys most of the time.

Comments

egeus said…
Just speaking up for the male. There's always another side which people may not see mah. =p

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